Holding Space for your Ideal Self
This article was inspired by Dr. Serge Kahili King‘s “Simple but Powerful Healing Technique” YouTube Clip. Click on the image above to play this clip. NOTE: This exercise can be done as effectively for the self as it can for someone else. Know someone who is struggling in their life? You can always apply these techniques to hold space for their best potential self as a possible version of themselves that they can grow into.
Do you have a vision of who you want to be, what you want to achieve, or how you want to live your life? If so, you are not alone. Many people have dreams and aspirations they hope to someday realize. But how do you get from where you are now to where you want to be?
One way to bridge the gap between your present self and your fullest future potential is to hold space for your future self. This means creating a mental image of your ideal self, your potential, and your goals, without judging, comparing, or limiting yourself. It means acknowledging and appreciating the possibility of becoming who-, what-, where-, or how you want to be or feel you were created to be.
In this blog post, I will share a simple exercise that can help you hold space for your future self. This exercise can help you connect with your goals, cultivate gratitude, and empower yourself to take action. All you need is a few minutes of your time and an open mind.
Step 1: Connect with your goals.
Think about who you want to be, what you want to do, or where you want to go in life. Be as specific and detailed as possible. It may help to write your goal(s) and vision(s) down on a piece of paper or digital document.
Step 2: Visualize your potential self.
Close your eyes and imagine yourself as if you have already achieved your goals. How do you look, feel, think, and act? Hold this image in your mind’s eye, without contrasting it with your current reality. Just focus on the ideal, the potential, the possibility and really try that experience on for size.
Step 3: Practice non-judgement and non-forcefulness.
Hold the image of your future possible ideal self as something that is possible for you, as a possible version of yourself that exists that you can grow into.
Hold the image without comparing or contrasting it to your experience of your current self.
Hold the image without any feelings of forcing your current self into this future potential.
Hold the image without criticizing your experience of your present self and without blinding yourself to who, where, what, or how you presently are.
Without judgement, comparison, or force, simply hold the space for the potential, the possibility in time, for your present self to grow into this future version of you.
Step 4: Express gratitude.
While holding the image of your future self in your mind’s eye, feel a sense of appreciation and thankfulness for this ideal version of you as being possible. Thank yourself for having the courage, creativity, and curiosity to envision your goals. Thank yourself for holding this space for your future self.
You mind find it helpful to use affirmations to reinforce your gratitude and your positive mindset. For example, you can say:
- I am grateful for the opportunity to grow and evolve.
- I am thankful for the potential that lies within me.
- I am proud of myself for pursuing my dreams.
- I am excited for the future that awaits me.
Step 5: Fortify with affirmations.
The more you dwell in the space you hold for your future potential, the more ease-ily you will be able to grow into it if you choose to.
You may find it helpful to use affirmations to strengthen your ability to hold space for that potential and to hold your focus on what is possible for you. The affirmations won’t manifest this possible future; they simply help you hold your focus on the future potential, which is what enables it to be possible if the possibility exists.
Step 6: Take action.
After you have completed the visualization and gratitude exercise, open your eyes and return to the present moment. Notice how you feel, physically and emotionally. Use this energy and momentum to take action towards your goals. You can start with small, simple, and manageable steps.
The more you take action, the more you will reinforce your visualization and gratitude. The more you reinforce your visualization and gratitude, the more you will hold space for your future self. The more you hold space for your future self, the more you will become your future self.
Step 7: Cultivate a morning routine of curious gratefulness.
Science shows that most of how we feel about our day at the end of the day is based upon how we feel in the first five minutes of our day upon waking. Therefore, we can intentionally influence our entire day by having intention in the first five minutes upon rising. To accelerate your growth into your future possible self, practice this exercise first thing each morning upon waking. Throughout the day, look for curiosity with ways you can grow toward this possible version of you. At the end of the day, take a look back and note with gratitude the growth you’ve made and express a sense of curious thankfulness for the growth you can make again tomorrow.
Step 8: Share your vision.
I hope this blog post has inspired you to hold space for your future self. If you’d like to share your vision or your progress with me, I would love to hear from you. Please feel free to post your vision or reflections in the comments or book a complementary consult to discuss a structured plan to achieving your ideal you.
Thank you for reading and happy visualizing! 😊
Additional Exercises for Meeting your Full Potential & Ideal Self
This guided sleep hypnotherapy meditation is designed to support you in your journey to becoming your ideal self and inner advisor. Play while at rest.
Watch the 2.5 min YouTube clip from Dr. Serge Kahili King’s “Huna Talk” on “A Simple but Powerful Healing Technique” that inspired this article
This guided sleep hypnotherapy meditation is designed to support you in connecting with your higher self. Play while at rest.
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